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Growth and
Change Counseling!
We don't believe in staying the same. We believe in getting better! If you are depressed, anxious, addicted and been on medications for 15 years, its not working!
Its probably time to do something different!
Life is too short to keep feeling miserable when there is another way!
Thought Life
What you believe about the world determines the way you live your life! -AW Tozer
What you believe about yourself defines and shapes all of your relationships! - John Kane
Thoughts are the fuel of your soul. When you have negative beliefs about yourself, compulsive addictive cravings, fear filled thoughts, trauma memories, unforgiveness, or any other kind of obsessive or compulsive thoughts, they derail your relationships, your well being, and the trajectory of your life. At Growth and Change Counseling you will learn how to take control and transform your thought life into a life fulfilling world view that will enable you to experience fulfilling and healthy relationships, an authentic view of self, and greater satisfaction in your life.
What you believe about yourself defines and shapes all of your relationships! - John Kane
Thoughts are the fuel of your soul. When you have negative beliefs about yourself, compulsive addictive cravings, fear filled thoughts, trauma memories, unforgiveness, or any other kind of obsessive or compulsive thoughts, they derail your relationships, your well being, and the trajectory of your life. At Growth and Change Counseling you will learn how to take control and transform your thought life into a life fulfilling world view that will enable you to experience fulfilling and healthy relationships, an authentic view of self, and greater satisfaction in your life.
Purpose
Happiness is a very poor measurement of a well lived life. Satisfaction and fulfillment are much
better measurements of a well lived life. There are many people who have suffered greatly and yet
have turned life into a beautiful tapestry. They might not tell you they are happy, but they will tell
you they are satisfied and fulfilled.
Keep in mind, meaningless does not come from being tired of pain, it comes from being tired of pleasure. - Ravi Z
Keep in mind, meaningless does not come from being tired of pain, it comes from being tired of pleasure. - Ravi Z
Relationships
You are a relational being, wired for healthy relationship. The more relationally healthy people are, the less anxious, addicted, and depressed they are. Have you noticed that anxious, depressed, and addicted people isolate? Because they are pulling away from relationships, it hurts too much, its easier. And they get more mentally unwell, because our mental health problems are rooted in the breakdown of our relationships or the lack of relational intelligence.
– John Kane
– John Kane
Growth and
Change Brand
People come to us because they hear we get results quickly and we are able to help people with difficult and complex issues. At Growth and Change counseling, we all train in and utilize a common foundational approach to therapy that we have found to be very effective. While we are integrative and solutions focused, our approach is exclusively our own. You can have confidence that regardless of which therapist on our team you are working with, you will get the same
standard of treatment that has given us our reputation for effectiveness and results.
Our Team
John Mark Kane, LMFT #134414
Therapy is in my blood; its the way I can help and love people. Since I was young, I witnessed human suffering all around me. These experiences have shaped my life, challenging me to explore the human experience and how to help people live healthy, fulfilled, and godly lives. I have a diversity of interests in counseling, psychology, philosophy, wilderness therapy, theology, and experiential living that contribute to my unique approach to coaching. One cool fact about me is that prior to becoming a relationships oriented Therapist, I was a wilderness adventures facilitator.
Relationships are one of the most important aspects of my life. I treasure my relationship with God, with my wife, and my kids. I’ve come to realize that challenges in relationships are at the center of most of our problems, whether it be anxiety, depression, family conflicts, marriage conflicts etc. I am passionate about helping people to have the relationships that they long for because I believe that we are relational beings that can be made whole when we have healthy connection to others.
I believe that therapy is a safe place for people to be whoever they are right now, no matter how bad they feel about themselves or their lives. It is in this place of vulnerability that we can admit our struggles, face our true selves, and then grow to become all that we are meant to be! I believe in the inherent value of human life. No matter what your struggle, background, belief system, or things you have done, you are inherently valuable, and with me you will find a safe place to work on yourself or your family.
Experience
I have a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Western Seminary. I am available to provide individual, couples, family, child and adolescent therapy, and parent coaching. Prior to obtaining my Master’s degree, I had been working in the Mental Health field as a Coach for over 10 years. I also have the unique experience of obtaining an undergraduate degree in Recreation and specializing in Wilderness Therapy and Adventure Programming. I lived outside in the woods for two years, working with emotionally disturbed boys.
I experience working with individuals, couples, children, and families. I am passionate about empowering healthy relationships between friends, lovers, and families. I take a practical and integrated approach to therapy, using skill building interventions and techniques from science, psychology, and the Christian faith. I believe in addressing the needs of the whole person and that requires blending different viewpoints and creating a unique approach to therapy for each individual, couple, family, or parent.
I spent my formative years living in countries in Southeast Asia, which gave me the first hand experience of living in different cultures, and going through transitions and adjustments between cultures and nations. I have a personal understanding of the needs of expatriates, missionaries, and third culture kids (TCKs).
Growth and Change Counseling is a group practice. People come to us because they hear that people experience real change and growth when they come to our practice. All of our practitioners implement what we call the foundational approach to relational and emotional well being. All of our practitioners are trained in the same foundational approach so that regardless of which therapist you end up working with, you can be confident that you are getting the same standard of care for which we have become known.
I specialize in working with Individuals, Couples, Parents, families, Teenagers, Cross Cultural Workers, TCK’s, and Christians but I can work with you without any difficulty if you come from a different faith or belief system. Many of the skills I use in coaching have universal application and you too can experience improvements and significant growth in your relationships and life!
We help individual’s, couples, parents,and people in cross cultural settings work through their challenges so they can experience personal renewal and healing in their relationships (with God, family, friends, children, and other people).
We understand the unique stressors and hardships that people deal with in their relationships with family, friends, coworkers, and cross cultural settings!
Your well-being is my ultimate concern. Whether you’re an individual, a couple or a family looking for help – our therapy and coaching sessions are designed to provide a safe, non-judgmental, and understanding environment for you to deal with whatever is on your mind and heart. Contact us to today for a free consultation.
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Aidee Lookabaugh, LMFT #141667
Sometimes it is easier to smile and say “I am fine” when deep down, you are longing to say “no, I am not ok. I am tired, lonely, and hopeless. I long to be seen, to feel listened to, to be loved and accepted. I have tried it all, but nothing works.” Break free from any barriers that hold you back and come as you are. Starting therapy can be a daunting experience. My goal is to make your experience a safe place in which you can explore, process, and dive deeper in those areas of need; help you identify your strengths, and provide you with the foundational tools you need to thrive and grow in your life.
Whether you experience anxiety, depression, or conflict in your marital or parent-child relationships; I can help you! I’m here to help in your journey of healing and restoration! Therapy can be that safe place you’ve been looking for in which you can openly unload your heart and experience non-judgmental support and genuine connection. Together we can explore where you currently are, what you would like your future to look like, and how we can work together to help you get there.
I know it is important for you to find a therapist you can connect and work well with. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California. I am a first-generation Latina of Mexican background and bilingual in Spanish. My educational background includes a Bachelor’s in Psychology from San Diego State University and a Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy from Western Seminary. My professional development includes 1 year of experience working in Mexico as a psychologist, supporting teens and their families. I also have 9 years of experience working in community mental health with children, teens, young adults, and families.
Arione Acapulco, LMFT #39729
Have you thought “I don’t fit in” or “nobody cares what I think or listens to me!”or “Why do I stress out all the time?” I’ve been there too. Its a struggle in the very core of your belief system and with help you can heal. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from, or what you believe, I can come alongside you and help you on your healing journey, not just because I know how to, but because I have also experienced the healing myself.
You matter in life because you are human and precious. I want to help you experience wholeness so that you can be satisfied in your life and confidant to face any challenge and grow through it.
Therapy is in my blood. Its something I have pursued with passion since I was a child. I take a very hands on and eclectic approach (i.e.,integrating from multiple theories and strategies to personalize to your needs). I provide you with relational homework and skills to integrate into your life between sessions, this is where you will take what is learned in session and flesh it out in daily life. In this process you will learn how to shape you destiny instead of being defined by your past.
I am a member of Growth and Change Counseling. I integrate the Growth and Change foundational approach into our therapy sessions, its what gives us our reputation for meaningful results quickly. It allows us to establish a standard of care so that you can know that regardless of which therapist you work with at Growth and Change Counseling, you are getting the same foundation that has given us our reputation for producing real change quickly and effectively!
People come to us for many reasons, but they stay because they like our methods and get results. We don’t believe in endless therapy. Our goal is to get you in and out as quickly as reasonably can be done and do it in a way that hopefully you will never need to come back!
My professional Experience:
I have an undergraduate degree in Psychology from San Diego State and a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at Chapman University. I am a specialist with years of experience working with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and I have specialized training in Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA). I also specialize in working with Individuals around issues such as Anxiety, Depression and Anger Management. I work with couples and with parents dealing with child behavioral concerns. At Growth and Change Counseling, we treat everything and we want you to know that we have the knowledge and experience to support you.
April Silva, LMFT #142789
I am a relationships oriented therapist aggressively committed to helping you uncover the underlying causes of anxiety and depression and support you in building the skills to increase communication, connection, and find satisfaction in your relationships.
In this process I will help you to uncover and address the underlying anger that feeds the anxiety and depression. In cases of PTSD, I will help you uncover the underlying defenses that protected you through a traumatic experience but now are interfering with your ability to move forward in intimacy.
My approach
I am an experienced specialist in trauma care, including complex trauma and dissociation, and love helping clients heal. I treat the whole person utilizing aspects of many theories and strategies. Some of the theories and strategies I like to use include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), attachment theory, somatic therapy, and EMDR.Through this process together, you will learn tools and principles of life that will empower you with increased relational intelligence that will give you confidence and cultivate a renewed sense of purpose and well-being. There is no mountain too high to be climbed, no obstacle too difficult to face. There is hope and whatever your situation,I would be honored to face it with you.
Services
We possess a unique blend of experience and training in relationships, communication, and addictions. We have over 13 years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families to achieve happier, healthier, and more fulfilling lives. We specialized in the following areas:
A Happier, Healthier You
In Therapy sessions, we will work together to address concerns you may have around struggles like anxiety, depression, anger, and addiction. We will be able to explore past and present experiences and struggles to understand and inform our understanding of your needs and utilize simple practical steps to help you experience real change in your symptoms. In Coaching sessions, we’ll work together to help you to become the best version of yourself that you want to be. We will focus on your goals for addressing current problems by using a blend of interventions from research based behavioral and communication interventions.
For those who would like to increase intimacy, connection, and shared purpose in your marriage.
We draw from recent research and diverse psychological theories including Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and for those that request it incorporate Christian Psychology. We tailer services to the needs of couple and we teach the foundational principles of relational intelligence necessary to forge lasting thriving relationships.We specialize in supporting neurodiverse couples, and address issues like infidelity, polyamory, addiction, abuse, and divorce. We have been successful in helping couples that already moved out on each other, put the relationship back together and move back in together. Our solutions are actionable, support positive change, and relational growth. Reach out for a free consultation and discover how we can assist you
You can have it all: Get your parenting power back and have the relationship you always wanted with your child/children.
In our work with parents and children, we've found that supporting parents directly yields more lasting results than working with the children themselves. We recognize your significant influence in your child's life.By empowering you to address your child's needs, we foster enduring positive outcomes and nurture a more intimate parent-child relationship. Parents often find it challenging to assist their children during difficult times. We offer our expertise, training, perspective, and experience to empower you, helping you regain parental authority and fostering a healthy, fulfilling relationship with your child.
Helping you get control of your media and/or sex life rather than letting it control you!
We specialize in supporting individuals to overcome internet, video game, pornography, and media sex addictions, empowering them to live addiction-free lives. Our judgment-free space offers a secure environment to combat addiction and effectively manage your digital life.Therapy significantly enhances your ability to manage this addiction, preventing it from controlling other areas of your life. Our dedicated sexual addiction therapist in Morgan Hill is here to guide and support you throughout the entire journey, ensuring a path towards lasting recovery.
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Specialties
Relationships
Adolescents
Career Counseling
Pornography Addiction
Trauma
Anxiety
Neuro Diverse Couples
Existential Counseling
School Trauma
Depression
Children
Anger Management
Aspergers
Family Counseling
Stress
Parents
East Meets West: Culturally relevant Therapy for Indian, Chinese, Korean, and other Asian Cultures.
Christian Counseling
Relationships
Conflict is a pathway to intimacy. If there’s no conflict in a relationship, at least one person isn’t being genuine. As therapists, we will provide support as you develop the relational intelligence needed for a meaningful and satisfying relationship. Let’s embark on this journey of growth together.
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Adolescents
We specialize in helping parents and teenagers strengthen their relationship by empowering parents to ensure the safety and well-being of their teens while supporting the teens’ personal growth. Whether it’s anger, addiction, self-harm, depression, anxiety, ADHD, or any other challenge, we here to help.
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Career Counseling
Whether you’re dissatisfied with your current job or facing a career roadblock, work should be a fulfilling part of your life. As a career counselor, we here to guide you in discovering your next step, leading to a career that brings you satisfaction and purpose. Let’s find your path together.
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Pornography Addiction
When does porn become an addiction? And why is it so prevalent? We guide you through the chemistry of sex, helping you understand the biochemical effects of pornography on your body, relationships, and long-term goals. If you’re ready for change, we are here to show you the way.
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Trauma
When we experience trauma, we yearn for justice that often eludes us. Fear and withdrawal take hold, leading to isolation and depression. It’s time to break free from the chains of trauma. Contact us to learn more about our approach to addressing trauma and beginning the journey toward healing.
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Anxiety
Anxiety often stems from dysfunctional relationships. When we experience hurt or a lack of safety, anxiety arises as a fear of further injury or negative outcomes. We want to help you break free from this cycle of anxiety and isolation. Reach out to us and start your journey toward freedom.
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Neuro Diverse Couples
Neuro-diverse couples involve at least one partner with Aspergers or High Functioning ASD. These couples face unique challenges that require specific attention. But there is hope! Reach out to us, and together we’ll navigate these challenges and build a strong and fulfilling relationship.
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Existential Counseling
Your beliefs about the world and yourself shape your life and relationships. Through existential counseling, us walk alongside you as you explore and develop your own worldview, finding satisfaction and purpose in your life. Let’s embark on this journey of self-discovery together.
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School Trauma
School trauma is a real issue, often evident through school refusal or behavioral problems. Don’t ignore the signs. There’s so much we can do to help children with ADHD, ODD, Aspergers, anger, or frustration. It’s time to try something new and seek professional help. Call us and let’s make a positive change.
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Depression
“I’ve been taking depression medication for 20 years, so why am I still depressed?” If the underlying causes of depression aren’t addressed, it tends to persist. Depression often stems from unresolved anger or rage, which in turn results from dysfunctional relationships. Don’t let depression control your life. Contact us today.
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Children
From birth through adolescence and beyond, we work closely with parents and children to address behavioral, emotional, ADHD, Aspergers, defiance, and school refusal issues. Using a relationship-focused approach, we specialize in helping families overcome challenging obstacles. Let’s conquer these challenges together.
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Anger Management
Anger management therapy goes beyond classes. Together, we’ll delve into the root causes of your anger and work side by side to dislodge it and effectively deal with it. By addressing the underlying rage and dysfunction in our relationships, we can find healing and regain control. Let’s tackle it together!
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Aspergers
Individuals with Aspergers, now referred to as high functioning autism, possess great intelligence and analytical skills. With the right support, they can develop the social intelligence necessary for healthy relationships as spouses, partners, parents, lovers, and more. Contact us today for a free consultation.
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Family Counseling
Family is the fundamental unit of society across cultures and religions. However, when conflicts and poor communication arise, family life can become difficult. As a family counselor, we here to support your family in learning healthy conflict resolution and relationship principles. Give us a call to get started.
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Stress
Acute stress can lead to isolation, depression, anxiety, and physical health problems. Sometimes, an external perspective can shed light on the challenges you’re facing. As someone outside your immediate stressors, we can offer insights that you may not see. Reach out to us for support in navigating your stress.
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Parents
Parents often judge themselves too harshly, even though they usually have more successes than failures. We here to come alongside parents, offering support and guidance in building a strong relational connection with their children and meeting their emotional needs. Let’s work together to address any acting-out behaviors.
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East Meets West: Culturally relevant Therapy for Indian, Chinese, Korean, and other Asian Cultures.
Our therapists are attuned to the unique challenges that couples and parents from Eastern cultures (Indian, Chinese, Thai, Vietnamese, Korean etc..) face in their relationships because of cultural norms and patterns. Some of these challenges are unique to Indian, Chinese, and other Asian cultures, and can be exacerbated by varying levels of adjustment to Western culture within the family system. All of our therapists are trained and equipped to help navigate those difficulties with sensitivity and effective strategies.
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Christian Counseling
Christian Counseling is one of the most sought after forms of counseling in the United States today. We are not Christian therapists because of who we treat but because of who we are. CS. Lewis wrote, “I believe in Christianity like I believe in the sun, not just because I see it, but because by it I see everything else. For those of you looking for Christian Counseling, we take a Christian Psychology approach in our work with you and all of our therapists are trained to apply the same foundational approach for all who are seeking Christian Counseling. You can learn more about our brand here and we encourage you to read some of our reviews.
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John listens very well and also provides positive, constructive perspective. He offers good strategies based on a focus on and observance of high quality core principles. Through working with John I have become more aware and observant of my core principles and how I can adhere to them in my daily decision making and thinking.
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I can say that he makes a difference in our life (me and my husband find the tools to communicate each other productively; which hardly ever happened before.) I highly recommend John as a therapist, I truly believe he WILL MAKE a difference in people's lives.He is one of the few therapist who are hard to find! Who is good at what he is doing and who is enjoy what he is doing!thank U!
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I have worked with a handful of therapist through the years for myself and three children and john has been the best by a long shot, understands everyone's needs, by far the best therapist we have ever had !!
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Mr. Kane is very gentle and hears the heart of the problem. He guided our family through a difficult season with faith, hope, encouragement, and educational resources. I don't know how to show appreciation for saving our family other than saying, Thank you!
I would highly recommend him.
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John is great at this. The work he has you do is awesome. This was a big help in my life.
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Location
Our business address is located at:
1875 S Bascom Ave Ste #2400, Campbell, CA 95008
- Our therapists reside all over the state and serve our clients in their respective locations. we are also able to serve all of California and the following zip codes through telehealth services
- Chula Vista CA 91911
- Chula Vista CA 92154
- Concord CA 94520
- Corona CA 92882
- Elk Grove CA 95624
- Fontana CA 92336
- Lancaster CA 93534
- Los Angeles CA 90022
- Moreno Valley CA 92557
- Ontario CA 91710
- Oxnard CA 93030
- Palmdale CA 93552
- San Bernadino CA 92346
- San Diego CA 92105
- San Jose CA 95128
- Sunnyvale CA 94086
- Visalia CA 93277
Online Coaching
Flexible and Effective According to Your Needs
Change to... When we serve clients through online video and phone therapy, we use HiPAA technology that protects your privacy. It provides flexibility and ease to meet your needs from the comfort of your home or office.
In this process you will achieve personal transformation through the development of new personal, interpersonal, and relational skills. We will support you in all your therapy and coaching needs. Where appropriate we may encourage you to apply practical homework into your life, that may lead to the adoption of new attitudes and habits.
In this process you will achieve personal transformation through the development of new personal, interpersonal, and relational skills. We will support you in all your therapy and coaching needs. Where appropriate we may encourage you to apply practical homework into your life, that may lead to the adoption of new attitudes and habits.
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Fee: $165 per 45 minute session
*We can provide you with a superbill for out of network reimbursement purposes. Insurance: In Network: Anthem Blue Cross, Aetna, United Health Care, Oxford, Oscar Health. Many people with insurance through Cigna, HealthNet, Adventist Health, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Blue Shield of CA, GEHA, and others may have some coverage for services with me.
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