The 17 myths of Porn Addiction

The Internet has enabled pornography to become so widespread and accessible that its use is considered to be normal. What people don’t realize is how porn affects the brain and how fast it leads from a “guilty pleasure” to a compulsive behavior. The nature of addiction allows a person to deny any negative consequences it has and conjure up all sorts of justifications for their behavior. In this article, we will take a look at 17 common myths that normalize and defend porn consumption. 1. Its ok because everyone does it (boys will be boys mentality) We learn what we are taught, and society has sought to normalize pornography, but

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Couples and Relationships Therapist Serving San Jose, Santa Clara, Campbell, Milpitas CA and the Greater Bay Area

Whatever issue you are going through, we are here for you. Life in San Jose, CA is fast paced and the work-life demands can be very intense. People work so hard and give so much of their time to their work, that they find themselves having difficulty in their relationships. A vast majority of people are single and their relationship life takes a back seat to their career aspirations and obligations. For those that are married, 8% will divorce but since the vast majority are not married, the divorce statistic underestimates the relational distress that people are going through. Living in Santa Clara County or in the greater Bay Area,

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How Pornography Affects a Couple’s Sex Life!

Pornography is more accessible than ever and there has been a huge increase in the number of men and women who watch it on a regular or even daily basis. Watching porn negatively affects a person’s life in many ways and this is especially true when it comes to people in a relationship. Relationships are fundamental to our wellbeing, and sex between two people who love each other strengthens their physical, emotional and spiritual bond. When a couple can be free and exploring in their sexual relationship with open and honest communication, it enriches the relationship and strengthens their overall happiness. When porn is brought into a relationship, it not

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Denial is the Biggest Barrier to Porn Addiction Recovery!

Denial in Porn Addiction The brain has a clever way of protecting us from experiencing painful truths and uncomfortable realities, and that is denial. Denial is one of the most robust defense mechanisms that allow an addict to avoid accepting what is really going on inside and right in front of their eyes. It’s the mechanism that ensures the continued and habitual use of something that has serious negative consequences on a person’s life; in this case pornography. Has your husband or partner told you their porn habit is ‘normal’? Or, when you’ve asked him to stop said ‘it’s not that bad’ or ‘I don’t have a problem’? If that’s

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Porn Addiction and Relationships Therapist serving Visalia, Lemoore and the Central Valley

Your relationship could look perfect to everybody in your community. It could even be fantastic, intimate, and joy filled most of the time and yet in the privacy of your home and personal life, it could be feeling very different from the beautiful fairy tale everyone else thinks you are living. Are you struggling with a porn addiction? Are you struggling in your relationships or career? Are you feeling lonely, depressed, or anxious. We would like to help you. We want you to know that you are wired for relationships and that at the heart of whatever issue you are facing is dysfunction in relationships that ends up in isolation

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Relationships and Couples Therapist in Palmdale CA Specialty in Parenting, Couples, Veterans & Porn Addiction

We proudly provide online telehealth services to the residents of Palmdale CA. We specialize in helping people experience improvement in their mental health through the enhancing of their relationships. Whether you are dealing with anxiety, depression, addiction, or trauma, parenting concerns regarding a child with ADHD or other behavioral or emotional concerns, or challenges in your romantic or marriage relationship, we are confident in our ability to help you. In Palmdale, there is a significant population of veterans who have fought in wars and in particular, the Vietnam War. As the son of a Vietnam War Veteran, I am acutely aware of how trauma can shape a person’s lif e

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My Child is Getting in Trouble at School? He or She is a good kid! What should I do?

Kids do not act out for no reason. The way kids learn is through replication of what they see and experience. School itself is counter-intuitive to the way children learn. There are a lot of reasons why your child might be getting anxious, angry, having problems focusing, having trouble sitting still, getting into fights with other kids, getting poor grades, and showing a lack of motivation. Sure, they might have ADHD, chronic anxiety, depression, or social anxiety but there also may be a lot of other reasons for their behavior. Regardless of what is going on, children are resilient and with the right help they can stabilize and have satisfaction,

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Is your child refusing to go to school?

School Trauma in children is a real thing. I’ve seen kids that were so traumatized by their school experience that they wouldn’t come out of their bedroom for two years. If your child is refusing to school it is not simply a defiance issue. There is a fundamental need your child has to feel safe and he or she is not feeling safe so they are digging in their heels. It is important to understand that school is not education, although education can happen at school. It is also important to understand that school is counter-intuitive to a child’s innate ways of learning since birth and it can be damaging

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3 Life Experiences That Can Cause Grief (And How To Deal With It)

The empty feeling in your heart, the sense of hopelessness and loss, and perhaps a tinge of guilt or resentment—grief takes form in many ways, and almost all of them leave you feeling like you aren’t yourself anymore. Grief is a natural response to losing someone close to you, such as a friend or family member. However, it’s normal to feel grief in scenarios other than the passing of your loved one. It’s important to deal with grief in a healthy manner and get proper grief counseling lest it takes over your life. Here are some scenarios where you might feel grief: Death of a loved one This is one

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11 Signs Of Anger Management Issues

Anger is an extremely normal reaction in humans that can be beneficial or effective in particular situations, such as responding to a threat of harm or injury to others or yourself. However, being unable to control your anger and lashing out can become destructive and create issues in your life while negatively affecting your professional and personal relationships. Anger affects more than just your external relationships—it also negatively affects your health. Losing control over your anger can lead to bulimia, diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, and road accidents. According to anger management specialists, here are some common signs of anger issues: Do you have an anger issue? You might have an anger

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Struggling with Panic 101: Effective Ways to Overcome Anxiety-Inducing Situations

Have you ever felt like your throat’s closing up, your heart sinking, a pit forming in your stomach, and your fingertips getting numb? If you’ve had at least two of these feelings at once, then you have experienced a panic attack before. Drawing on the same lines as depression, anxiety can be an overwhelming and personal experience where no two people can feel the same way. While the experience is different for everyone, the basic symptoms are almost the same for everyone. You might feel distant from reality; you might even experience voices moving further away from you or feel like your entire body is shutting down at once. Dealing

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Struggles People Face When Grieving the Loss of a Loved One

Death is the great equalizer that everyone faces, but that doesn’t take away from the pain that people experience when they are left behind. When someone you love departs from the world, you are forced into feeling empty, alone, and withdrawn from the rest of the world. Losing a loved one can force people down dark paths, including shutting other loved ones out, isolating themselves, and developing mental health problems such as anxiety and depression. We understand that losing someone can make you question everything you ever knew about life and the world, and your confusion can get in the way of your future milestones and happiness. It’s heartbreaking to

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Validation: The Ultimate Tool for Parenting Emotionally Aware Children

As parents, we all want to do the best for our children. We want to raise happy, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. However, parenting can be a challenging and overwhelming experience, especially when our children are going through emotional struggles. When our children are upset, angry, or frustrated, sometimes it feels intuitive to dismiss their feelings, tell them to “get over it,” or even punish them for expressing themselves. But did you know the importance of validation as the ultimate tool for parenting emotionally aware children? Let’s keep reading to learn more! Importance of Validation Validation is the acceptance and acknowledgment of our children’s emotions, thoughts, and experiences without judgment

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